When the Body Cuts Itself to Pieces


We are called to live at peace with all men as long as it’s possible for us. That’s in Romans.

We’re also told that the church is a body and that we must work together to not only build each other up, but to keep the rest of the body safe. That’s in Corinthians and Matthew 18.

Being a part of a local body is crucial for Believers. There is safety. There is counsel. Also, there are witnesses.

The Christian Homeschool Community is not a church. It’s a movement. It’s not a church.

Naturally, one would hope that it is able to regulate itself, but is that even possible? How does a ‘movement’ regulate itself? Who is responsible to keep the bad apples out? The Leaders? Who are the Leaders? What if the Leaders are bad apples?

I don’t have any easy answers for this. The only answer that I do know is that any man who claims Christ must be accountable to *somebody*. The local church is generally the place for issues to be worked out (unless a crime has been committed — know when to report an issue). But if a ‘Leader’ has no local body and is in gross/persistent sin and will not work with anybody who appeals to them to stop the destruction… what do you do?

In most cases Titus 3:10-11 would answer, “Warn a divisive person once, and then warn them a second time. After that, have nothing to do with them. You may be sure that such people are warped.”

But what if there is a danger to others? What is the moral responsibility for those who have information? These are questions my husband and I are trying to work out right now.

Likely you may soon hear about another huge and distressing ‘Homeschool Leader’ scandal. If you are a Believer you have clear commands from God’s Word on how to handle ‘breaking news’ that happens in ‘Christian Circles”.

1) What does your heart look like? Does it rejoice and become busy in the flurry of news reports that come out? Are you praying for the victims involved? Are you praying for the ‘Leader’ involved? Or are you just filling up your ears with ‘choice morsels’?

2) How are you discussing the news with others? Is it fun to chatter about the details? As a Christian this should never be the case. Ever. We are to be known for our great love for one another. Anybody who rejoices in a fallen brother is probably not saved. 1 John 4:20 Yes, I understand that there is relief and gratefulness when justice is served and Truth is revealed — but as Christians the motivating factor should always be Love. Love doesn’t gloat, it’s not vindictive, it does not glory in the fall of anybody. It must always truly and honestly long for restoration and reconciliation. Anything less is not worthy of Christ.

3) What are you doing with the information? God’s Word tells us that sometimes a leader needs to be called out publicly as a warning to others. (1 Timothy 5:20). As Believers when this sort of thing happens it should hit us with sober gravity. It should bring us to our knees. It should cause us to check our own lives and our own weaknesses.  Which leads me to #4…

4) It should cause us to look to Christ. We are all such total losers. Seriously, humans are hopeless. We are in need of Grace and Mercy CONSTANTLY. Those of us who truly know Christ understand the depth of our own depravity. We understand how much we need a Savior. If we’re honest, we also understand how much we do *not* deserve either grace or mercy.  How does the saying go? “When it comes to others we make excellent judges, when it comes to ourselves we make excellent lawyers”

The Christian Body is a living organism. We must operate as a body. Nobody gets a splinter and hacks off his foot. At the same time, rare is the sane person who knows they have gangrene and merrily goes about their way as it spreads and rots the rest of his body.

Wisdom, peace, grace, justice, mercy, unity, and that God’s name will be glorified. That’s what I’m praying for.


12 thoughts on “When the Body Cuts Itself to Pieces

  1. Oh, Jen, my heart is grieved to hear that there will be “another” one in the news. At this point, I don’t know who this one is, but I will be praying, including for you and Geoff – specifically for wisdom and discernment. Those aren’t words I use lightly.

    Although the homeschooling community is certainly not the only demographic that deals with scandals, it is certainly one of the most visible ones in recent months. And I think you hit the nail on the head when you say it’s not a church, it’s a community; yet that’s the very thing that has tripped many people up. Not only do they make the mistake of looking for an easy, one-size-fits-all answer to a happy, homeschooling family, but they also put a leader in a deified position and completely fail to consider his teaching in light of the word of God. What happened to being a faithful student of the Word and applying hermeneutics??

    The Apostle Paul spent so much time warning us of false teachers and how to be on the alert; now the body of Christ is witnessing the fruit of failing to put that into practice.

  2. I don’t know the details, butbibknow the One Who does. Praying for ALL involved. <3

  3. Jen,
    UGH. I am so sorry to hear there is another huge problem going on in the homeschool community. That is awful. I don’t know what to say except that I am praying for all who may be close to it, and for the homeschool community as a whole. I love this community, and it is so sad to me when anything happens that brings shame to the name of homeschoolers. :(

  4. This post makes my heart sink , but amen to all you’ve said. Thank you for the perspective and balance. I’m glad to know you.

  5. Jen, I love what you wrote. Being honoring to Jesus our Savior and Lord is what matters. Moving forward in an effort to protect others is difficult, but obedience is what He wants, with the attitude and heart which you wrote about. I’m continuing to pray for you all.

    2 Cor. 12: 9 And He has said to me, “My grace is sufficient for you, for power is perfected in weakness.” Most gladly, therefore, I will rather boast [a]about my weaknesses, so that the power of Christ may dwell in me. 10 Therefore I am well content with weaknesses, with [b]insults, with distresses, with persecutions, with difficulties, for Christ’s sake; for when I am weak, then I am strong.

  6. You know I’ve got your back, Jen. Much, much love to your and yours. It would have been easy to walk away and wipe your hands (VERY easy!), but clearly your Father has other plans for your knowledge. May His name be glorified. My many prayers and utmost respect are with you because I know it’s got to be so hard. Love you, girl.

  7. Thanks for sharing your thoughts on this. You know I’m right there with you in the struggle. Just waiting and praying . . .

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